“Challenges are what make life interesting and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.” (Joshua J. Marine)
We all go through tough times, don’t we? These times may be due to work challenges or personal struggles. Challenges are a part of life and learning to overcome these challenges and making decisions to enable us to move forward during these times can be hard. We can be left feeling we have lost some control over our lives.
We have inevitably lost a bit more of this control over recent months as the impact of coronavirus has been extremely tough for many people. There is increased uncertainty in our environment and the world around us which, for many, has made decision-making a complex, overwhelming and stressful experience.
During uncertain and complex times, the way we make decisions changes. To avoid stress, we tend to try and simplify the complexity around us by making decisions based on our habits and what others are doing in similar circumstances. Points 1 and 2 below explain how :
In uncertain times, we turn to our comfort zone and become reliant on our habits that sit within this. The implications being that we can avoid the stress of the current uncertainty and delay making any decisions that bring about a change to our lives. Unfortunately, this can increase the development and establishment of unhealthy habits. These are habits that don’t make us happy and are hard to change.
- What others are doing
‘I can’t change career because a friend has told me it is too risky. Other people are not changing career now so I must wait too.’
In uncertain times, we tend to make decisions by searching for information that confirms our existing thoughts and beliefs about the world. We also base our decisions on what other people are doing in the same situation. Unfortunately, accepting the views and opinions of others without question will pull us in the direction of making decisions based on what others are doing or saying rather than based on who we are, our values and what we genuinely want. The danger is we miss the stories that show what we really want is possible.
Unfortunately, focusing on comfortable habits and what others are doing can cause you to draw the wrong conclusions and subsequently make decisions that are not right for you. Although, by focusing on these areas, we are trying to gain control and reduce the uncertainty we are facing, we can instead cause ourselves further stress in doing so.
The next step…..
You, of course, want to make the right decisions. You want to make decisions that move you forward and make you happy in your career and the way to do this is to become really aware of how the situation is affecting your decisions. Self-awareness is key. Let me show you how through the following four steps:
- Be aware of thoughts
‘I can’t change career.’
Be aware of how the current situation is making you think and feel. What is going through your mind? Negative beliefs can make you feel miserable and stop you achieving what you want to achieve. Keep monitoring your thoughts – make a note of them to enhance your awareness.
(Have a watch of my video, ‘Building your confidence for a career change’, if you would like to find out more about the impact of thoughts and feelings on our careers.)
- Be aware of habits
‘I must wait until things become certain before I make decisions regarding my career.’
Become aware of any habits you have developed or become reliant on that keep you within your comfort zone. What are they? How to they make you behave? What will be the consequences of these habits?
- Challenge your beliefs
‘I don’t have to wait to change career. (I may be waiting a long time if I wait for certainty.)’
You are likely to have already built up the evidence to support your existing thoughts and beliefs through what others are doing. Now find the evidence that disproves these thoughts. Who do you know who has changed career? What information can you find about careers post coronavirus? Who is advertising job vacancies?
- Develop new habits
‘I can change career!’
It’s time to develop new habits that help you move forward and ultimately be happy. It can take 20-30 days of introducing a new habit, to break the old one but the important point here is that it is possible to change them, it may just take a little time to do so. Be patient and take one step at a time, breaking any activity you want to achieve into small steps and start building change into your routine that will help you make the changes you want to make in your career.
A lot of our happiness is determined by our actions, attitudes and what we do on a daily basis and the four steps I have described are steps you can take that will help you to make decisions regarding you career that make you happy and increase your chances of being successful.
Changes to our existing habits will help us to adapt to hard times, be happy and help us move forward in our careers.
To read more about finding happiness in your career, have a read of my blog ‘The secret to finding happiness in your career’.